Lift the dark cloud that has been hanging over you and start to enjoy motherhood
Traumatic Birth Recovery
3 Step Rewind
Before the birth, you were lively and social. A busy but productive working week was followed by chilled weekends with friends, brunch and a bit of shopping and then your pilates class or maybe a run.
You always knew having a baby would come with challenges, but you never thought it would be this hard. You were optimistic – cautious, of course, but optimistic.
But then all of a sudden, life as you knew it changed. Things were a blur, everything felt confusing. You had lost control. It was not what you expected. It was not what you had planned.
And now, perhaps new ‘not so great’ feelings have surfaced. Feelings you feel guilty even for feeling.
Perhaps you feel angry, resentful or anxious. Perhaps you feel distant or numb. Perhaps you feel jealous or bitter. Perhaps you feel on edge, always alert and exhausted. Perhaps you are craving company but the thought of someone near you makes you anxious and tearful.
You never thought having a baby would feel like this
“The 3 Step Rewind with Alex was a really good experience and after each session I felt relaxed, safe and positive. I am really pleased with how quick and easy it was to feel such a difference.
Before my first session with Alex, I was feeling low and guilty about the birth of my baby. Every time I thought about it, I felt like a heavy cloud was hanging over me and I that the negative elements of the birth overwhelmed any happy memories. I even felt resentful when others talked about their positive birth experiences and it was affecting my relationships with my family.
I wanted to finally feel like my old self again and to get rid of these negative emotions and be able to feel calm and happy when I thought of the birth.
Alex explained to me how the sessions would enable this and from the very first session, she immediately made me feel calm and supported and I felt my feelings were really listened to without judgement. Even though I was discussing the past trauma, it always felt like a safe space to do that and in fact the sessions themselves were really relaxing and it felt really good to take some time for myself to finally process how I have been feeling about the birth.
Alex prepared me a tailored audio relaxation to listen to in between the sessions and I found this really helpful in winding down after a busy day at work. I actually had the best night sleep in months after the first session.
I was also really surprised by how quickly I saw results. After feeling negative about the birth for so long, I finally felt more zen about the it, and whilst I know it was a difficult birth I am no longer overwhelmed by negative feelings or trauma and feel more positive as a result.
I would highly recommend 3 Step Rewind sessions with Alex if you are feeling burdened by a negative birth experience. I wish I had known about this sooner.”
– Charlie, London
The 3 Step Rewind Service is for you if:
- You have had an upsetting pregnancy, birth or postnatal experience which is impacting your ability to enjoy motherhood.
- You felt fit and well before your upsetting experience and want to get back to 'your happy old self' again.
- You feel like nobody really 'gets it' and you are dealing with your emotions alone.
- You are tired of feeling on edge when people talk about pregnancy, birth or motherhood.
- You feel nervous, anxious, numb, guilty, tearful or anything in between!
- You want to be listened to by someone who really understand and cares.
- You want to feel more secure that you can manage whatever motherhood throws at you.
- Your upsetting experience was 8 weeks ago (there is no upper limit - your experience could be 8 weeks ago or many years ago).
- You are ready to give yourself the love and care you deserve.
This service is not for you if:
- You are already receiving treatment for, or have been diagnosed with, a mental health condition, or are seeking a diagnosis. I am not a medical professional, doctor, psychologist, psychotherapist or similar.
- You want medical help, either mentally or physically. This is not a medicinal course or therapy and no medical advice will be given.
What is Traumatic Birth Recovery 3 Step Rewind?
Traumatic Birth Recovery (TBR) 3 Step Rewind is a very safe, very gentle technique which aims to neutralise symptoms of trauma, which may include perinatal anxiety, difficulty sleeping or feelings of guilt and sadness. It is a very effective, non-invasive NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) technique which is performed when you are in a deeply relaxed state.
How it works…..
- TBR 3 Step Rewind is structured in three sessions of between 60 and 90 minutes, spread over a 4 week period.
- In the first meeting, I will explain the process in detail so that you can relax, feeling confident and fully supported in moving ahead. I give you the opportunity to share details of your traumatic experience in a safe, non-judgemental space, if you wish to. I understand how hard it can be to revisit an upsetting event and will listen from a place of kind compassion, trusted confidentiality and genuine respect.
- In session 2, you will experience a gentle, guided relaxation, leading into the TBR 3 Step Rewind technique. You remain in total control at all times and will awaken your own innate capacity to heal whilst being fully supported.
- In the final session, we meet again to discuss the positive ways in which the technique has affected you, how your life has changed since Session 2 and to explore how you can continue to benefit from it in the future. We celebrate the immense courage you have shown and the pride in finally being able to do things you never thought were possible.
I’m Alex Ballarini
When you’ve been through an upsetting perinatal experience, it can be really tough to make sense of all of the different emotions that you may be feeling, when you’re already exhausted and consumed by the demands of motherhood.
Perhaps you feel confused or angry. Perhaps events play over and over in your mind, or perhaps you just want to block it out completely.
As you lie awake at night, it feels SO UNFAIR. On the worst days, it feels like the motherhood experience you deserve has been taken from you. That is such a hard place to be, I know.
Dearest, we need to talk!
I help womxn who are feeling this way relieve these non-serving emotions and move forward into a new phase, the weight of these heavy emotions finally lifted.
I’ll hold the space for you to process your emotions, so that you can start to move forward and begin to enjoy motherhood. Finally you can scroll through the parenthood posts on Instagram without worrying about bursting into tears.
I believe that every womxn who has been on a parenthood journey during the pandemic deserves to feel like the courageous, strong, brave lady that she is.
The resilience you have shown is second to none and it is my mission for every womxn and her family to stand strong and stand proud.
Are you ready to move into your next phase
Having experienced my own upsetting caesarean birth in 2014, my eyes were opened to a brand new range of emotions – many of these feelings were painful and heavy. Shouldn’t I feel more grateful to have a healthy baby? Isn’t that enough? What the hell was wrong with me?
On the outside, I was coping quite well. But every time my baby cried, I wondered if it was a result of the birth experience. Was he ok? Did he remember it? It was a dark shadow hanging over my experience of motherhood.
I worked through these emotions alone, I thought to myself ‘motherhood is supposed to be hard and tiring isn’t it?’. I scrambled through the days, trying to find my feet emotionally as well as physically (oh, and let’s not forget that ‘little’ job of looking after a baby too!).
Fast forward to today. I have left behind the corporate career I had for 10 years and have devoted myself to serving women in being able to flourish during the perinatal period. Because women being able to flourish matters. It matters a huge, huge amount.
Every single fertility journey matters. Every single pregnancy matters. Every single birth matters. Every single baby matters. Every single mother matters.
You matter.
Over the past four years I have trained as a Doula and Hypnobirthing Practitioner with a special focus on perinatal trauma and the emotional wellness of mothers. I have trained with Alexandra Heath at Traumatic Birth Recovery in London in TBR 3 Step Rewind. I attend regular supervision sessions to ensure that my services are always safe and up to date.
I believe in supporting mothers to give themselves the time, care and love they deserve but so infrequently experience. Empowering and encouraging mothers is my ‘thing’ and I want to see you thrive.
I am not a doctor and I won’t ‘cure’ you. You are not broken.
I will hold the space for you so that you can explore your emotions and harness the power of your own healing. I will return your power to you.
I work from a place of compassion, love and genuine respect for all of you amazing women.
I would be honoured to walk with you on your journey to confidence, calm and pride.
Will TBR 3 Step Rewind work for me?
It can be hard to believe that such a gentle, non-invasive process can lift trauma symptoms so quickly, however TBR 3 Step Rewind has been used time and time again to support mums (and their partners!) to finally feel the weight of the negative emotion lifted. Many mums go on to enjoy a parenthood experience that they never thought would be possible before the TBR 3 Step Rewind. If you are ready to feel better, I am here to support you in creating the life that you deserve.
I’m not sure I have the time to invest in this at the moment.
How you feel matters to the whole family.
The TBR 3 Step Rewind is an investment in your own long-term wellbeing. Ask yourself, what is it worth to you and your family if you were to become present with your loved ones once again. What would become possible for you if you were to finally feel free of negative emotion?
What is the investment?
When you invest in a BirthSure service, Alex donates 10% of the payment to ChildLine, registered charity 216401.
Terms and conditions:
This program aims to release non-serving emotions related to your perinatal experience so you can move to a place of confidence and pride. It is not therapy for mental health issues and no medical advice will be given under any circumstances.
Alex Ballarini aims to create a safe, non-judgemental, confidential space where clients can find validation and understanding. Experiences are unique across individuals and it is natural that benefits will vary from person to person.
Payment is required in full at least 24 hours prior to the first session date, unless otherwise agreed in advance.
All materials and audios within the program are copyright of Alexandra Ballarini at BirthSure.
Full Terms and Conditions available upon application to the service.